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Joined: 14 Apr 2006 Posts: 1

I never was completely against abortion.. I had a mind set that if it was the only possible way then so be it. Well guess what, I have never been so wrong.

I am 18 years old and I am still a senior in highschool. When I was 14 I had a serious boyfriend for 2 years.. one time I thought I had gotten pregnant when I was late.. The worst part was, we had broken up about a week before that so he didnt believe me. He was the biggest jerk I had ever met and I was convinced that if I was pregnant I would be the worst mother alive but never considered abortion.. luckily it was a false alarm. Now here I am with a new boyfriend of about 6 months.. he is most certainly the love of my life but my parents would completely turn on me if I was to get pregnant before being married. Well, ever since my little incadent two years ago I have been so paranoid... We ALWAYS use protection and a lot of the time I will make excuses because I know if I get pregnant its my own fault. Well, it happened again just 2 weeks ago. I was convinced I was pregnant, my boyfriend and I had discussed abortion and decided it was the best answer because were both too irresponsible. I got a puppy about a month ago and I cant even raise that.. my mom is pretty much raising her.. otherwise who knows if she'd still be alive. I had decided that if I was pregnant that would be the answer.. abortion.

Taking the pregnancy test was one of the scariest moments ever. I remember all the times we made fun of the girls in our school who were pregnant.. we called them whores and laughed behind their backs. It was only at that moment while I waited to see how many lines it showed that perhaps they were in the same predicament as I was. Maybe they were as careful as they could be.. but the only way to be 100% positive was to abstain.. obviously. I also realized, these girls are not whores.. they're heros. these girls knew they made mistakes but instead of being irresponsible they were living with the shame and tourture so that they didnt take the life from what they created. It takes one boy to get a girl pregnant.. not multiple boys so it was out of the question if they were whores, they could have had a boyfriend for years.. I felt so stupid, and so ignorant that I could have cried.

I made my boyfriend check the test, it was negitive. However abortion never left my mind. Then just today I was on myspace reading posts someone had made about abortion.. I saw pictures of the forming babies.. living, breathing and most certainly feeling everything that happened to those poor undeserving children. I broke down and decided abortion is wrong. This is a big step for me, because I honestly never thought I would say this. I couldnt believe it.. i am so proud of myself because I'm finally growing up.. I have now decided if I should get pregnant.. that is my fault. If I have to live with knowing I made a mistake then okay.. I know once I have that baby in my arms I will thank God I made the right decision.. The nervous thing comes with any new mother.. of course mistakes will be made along the way but mistakes are okay.. As long as were not taking life from undeserving babies.. mistakes along the way will be just fine. And if i should become pregnant and I am not stable.. open adoption is the other answer.. if we cant give the love and care that the baby needs someone else can.. theres absolutely no reason why we cant carry a baby for 9 months so that it can still be happy and healthy somewhere else. There are SO many people who cant have children that want children.. I dont know why we can't help them out and help our babies at the same time.. its the best answer and then everyone is happy.

Another concern I have is my friend.. she is 11 weeks.. and she is getting an abortion. The worst part is.. she is procrastenating.. I'm afraid she'll wait till the deadline, shes seriously not even calling the place. When I found out I was still pro-choice.. now I hope the website that opened my eyes will also open hers. I am so happy that I found this, and I am thanking God for giving me signs. I will never ever get an abortion and its all because of one website. I am not pregnant and I sincerely hope that when it does happen.. I am hoping for the baby and not hoping that Im wrong.. thank you for reading this.. and thank you to everyone who has helped in opening my eyes. This day is a huge day for me. Very Happy

First, welcome! It's good to see new faces here.

Why is your friend procrastinating? Why does she want an abortion? Maybe you could show her photos of what her baby looks like (ultrasounds), and show her this website.

This is what the baby looks like (11 weeks):
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So many minds are changed every day just beacuse of websites like these... It's a great thing. It's great you have a changed mind! I'm happy to hear that. Smile

On another part, my cousin is 19 and has a one and a half (almost!) year old son. She had him when she was just 17 and in high school. They're all well now. It just makes me sad when people say girls like her should get an abortion so it "won't ruin their lives" and so "she can go to college and have a career". Her son's one of my major reasons I am pro-life (on top of the fact I had a babysitting job with him last summer, for almost the whole summer) and she's one of the reasons I know other girls her age, and even older, can make it in life with a child.

Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 142 Location: oshawa ont canada

You know what, I liked your story. But now hear mine!!
Ok I had just turned 16 when i met my BF. We were obviously having sex and it only took 2 months for that to happen, which is pretty good i hear. But in may 1998, we goofed, and i got pregnant. I was terrifyied!! My mother is the devil herself, i swear it!! The woman is EVIL!! But in a headstrong sorta way!! So me being 16, and afraid of her, I never told anyone, but my bf. Abortion was NOT an option!! Adoption was. BUt i couldnt even deal with that. Im a way to selfish person to give away what is mine. My bf and i were together for 5 months when it happend. Maybe 6. But i finally got the courage to tell my mom, i was showin. I was 4 months and i told her. MY GOD!!! i was so scared i could barely talk!!! She didnt yell, she didnt do anything, all she said was " you know you are having it right?" I was shocked, i was like "yea" and she said "good" So in Febuary on the 18th, i gave birth to a 9lb 2oz baby boy named James. And now he is a gr 1 student that has smarts that you wouldnt believe, He is extremly smart and he looks like me!! Splitting image!! And it makes me think about what i would have lost if i had aborted him!! And i think that jumping to conclusions and thinking that people are "whores" Because they get pregnant is not a very cool thing to think. Cuz after 9 years and 5 pregnancies later, we are still together, mind you out of 5 pregnancies i have 3 boys. So Thank you for changing you mind.

Joined: 31 May 2006 Posts: 18 Location: Ontario

Amanda, that is a very edifying story. That's exactly what it's about: what you could have lost if you had aborted-- that child who was beautiful in the womb, and now you have the blessing of raising him and seeing him grow. Thanks for sharing.

Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 142 Location: oshawa ont canada

Thank you!! But i do know that alot of other girls arnt so lucky, and their "men" Leave them and that is so sad!!! But if there is ever a baby to come out of a situation like that, The baby isnt the one at fault, the man is, So at least give the baby a chance at life!!